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  1. Helen

    Toowoomba Op

    Does anyone know if you can have lapband surgery in Toowoomba or do I have to travel to Brisbane? Any lapband doctor's that you would highly recommend in Toowoomba or Brisbane?
  2. Helen

    There is NO cure

    I thought that getting my lapband on 1st June, 2011 would finally be the 'cure' to my 30 year off and on battle with bulimia. 8 months out I realise, it's not. There is no cure. Now, when I over eat, there is no way of vomiting the excess food as it can't get back up past the band. I lost 23kgs in the first 5 months. I have regained 10kg of that to date. Telling me I self sabotage my band falls on deaf ears. Telling me to count calories is like telling a meth addict to 'just have a little bit'. There is no spare money to go and see a counsellor. Telling me to "follow the golden rules of lapband" is like telling a heroin addict to just not pick up the needle.
  3. Helen

    There is NO cure

    Penny thank you for replying what you did. It makes total sense to me what you are saying about triggers. I will do a google search and see if I can do some self counselling. I have been doing really well since posting this, it's like I get motivated and inspired after reading everyones advice. So hopefully, after using Penny's ideas also, things will go well for a while. The weight has gone down each day for the past four days and I am feeling really positive again.
  4. Helen

    There is NO cure

    Thanks everyone. I will keep on trying.
  5. Helen

    Lap band versus Sleeve advice

    I am banded 7 months, I wish I could turn back time and have the sleeve. My advice would be DON'T get banded, get the sleeve.
  6. Helen

    There is NO cure

    Thanks everyone, obviously I kept the secret of my struggle with bulimia from my surgeon and lied when asked the question 'have you ever had an eating disorder'. Some people say that if you break one addiction you just replace it with another. What could I replace it with that is acceptable and that would satisfy my addictive personality?
  7. Is there anyone in this forum who actually DOES NOT like being banded and would be willing to talk about that?
  8. Helen

    Who doesn't like being banded?

    Kirsty, would you give me a sample of what you eat in a day? An average of a few days. Just curious how it is a success for you and what you can eat.
  9. Helen

    Who doesn't like being banded?

    When I logged back in to read the replies and the first one I read was negative, I was nervous to read the others. But to my relief they were not all like the first jerk. Thanks to the others for the honest feedback, they actually helped a lot and put my thoughts into a new direction. xx
  10. What do fellow bandits think of this? When my band is tight I can really only have Optifast Shakes and Smoothies, my vitamins, and very little else and I lose weight fast. I don't mind only being able to consume liquids. Makes food NOT the focus of my day. Then when it is looser I eat more high calorie foods and put a couple of kg back on. I was thinking if I had it tight for 3 months, then had it loosened for 6 weeks, to enjoy different foods and enjoy chewing etc. I would probably gain 3 kgs again, but then have it tightened again and lose another 9kg or so for the 3 months it's tight. I think that would allow me to control my weight loss, but still allow me to have some food enjoyment throughout this banding journey. Do you think my surgeon would allow me to control the fills and unfills like this and has anyone else tried this method or think it would be successful?
  11. Helen

    Controlling our fills?

    Well I did ask you all what you thought of it and I appreciate those of you who took the time to answer. Unfortunately, I didn't like any of your replys. I still think it is a good idea and I think it will work for me and my food issues. I am going to ask my surgeon to do it for me. Thanks again and wish me luck if nothing else. H.x
  12. Helen

    7 weeks Banded

    All my complaining and negativatity in the first few weeks turned out to be a bit premature. Band working well, love it.
  13. Helen

    Flipping port

    Good luck to you girls with the ports flipped. I am 7 weeks banded and reading these stories about flipping make me very nervous. I am seeing my surgeon this Friday for 2nd fill and I am definately going to ask lots of questions about ports flipping and costs involved if it does. Sorry to those going through this now. xx
  14. Helen

    Being banded tomorrow Yeh!!!

    Good luck Sue, look forward to reading your updates. xx
  15. Helen

    7 weeks Banded

    thanks for the encouragement in the first photo I was almost 110kg, probably was after a big day of eating. In the after photo taken a few days ago I am 93kg. So about 17kg. OMG.
  16. Helen

    Sex

    There are ways you can do it that will not even hurt your incisions. Come on girls, you all know that. I say two days but just don't hang off the chandelier.
  17. Helen

    Saggy Skin?

    If you look closely at the contestants on The Biggest Loser when they come out at the finale, you can tell that they are wearing body hugging spandex underwear under their clothes to hold everything in place. You can see it on the men as well. They have no natural flesh movement when they walk. One Biggest Loser girl did a twirl at the end of the runway one year and she had on spandex down to her knees!!! So I think you would find when the clothes came off, the excess skin would be there. Both Adro and Sharif have publicly expressed how saggy their skin was after the show.
  18. Was reading through a thread about what everyone is eating. You are all eating so little and I envy you. I'm 19 days banded - lost 9kg from optifast stage to 1 week after surgery (liquids), have since put 5kg back on. My daily eating now: Before breakfast: Cuppaccino Breakfast: two pieces of toast or porridge (hey, maybe I could do both) Morning Tea: cuppaccino, 2 shortbread cream bikkies Lunch: Soup with buttered toast Early Afternoon: 2 mini sausage rolls or whatever kids having for after school snack Late Afternoon: Diet Coke, crisps or shapes While Cooking Dinner: Diet Coke, Pick at everything I am preparing for dinner Dinner: Whatever I am cooking for our family of 6 (4 teenagers and my hubby and me) 8pm: Diet Nestle Chocolate Mouse 9pm: Cuppaccino and 2 shortbread creams 10pm: Vanilla Yoghurt with prunes in it. (got that off this site. Yum) 11pm: Handfull of choc coated sultanas or lollies Not much Water. First Fill in another 10 days. Possibly I will be back to pre surgery weight by that stage. Maybe I am one of the Lap Band FAILURES. I know they are out there, they are just probably not posting on such a great, positive forum of success like this. They are hiding away in there loungerooms, just tracking back and forth to the fridge and the pantry just like before they were banded. Just like ME. I would love to hear from some people who are REALLY struggling on the band. Is it a success for everyone? Doesn't give me much hope that it will be for me. I know I haven't had a fill yet and a lot of you have told me to wait till then, but I am reading that people have NO restriction after 1, 2 or even 3 fills. I would have gained another 10 kgs by then. And NO I do not have any will power to control my eating for any longer than about 2 weeks at a time, then I blow out and go back to over eating. That is why I am overweight. That is why I wanted a band to STOP me overeating. Anyway, Bla Bla Bla, no-body likes a whinger, or a failure. I'm probably on the wrong forum. Where is a forum for Failed Lapbanders? Helen.
  19. Helen

    Forum For Failures

    Thank you all for the continued advice. I am really taking notice of it and implementing all that I can. My fist fill is this Thursday, 30th June and I am looking forward to that. This morning my Portion Control Plate, Bowl and book arrived. All steps towards success. Chat again soon. Helen.
  20. Helen

    My Truth

    Hi all, earler today I posted a topic on the questions forum titled "Forum for Failures". Great advice for that is coming through, but it led me to feel I should be more honest with my whole food issues. So although I posted the same in the questions topic further down, I am putting it here to reach out to anyone who may have a similar story and/or some advice for me. Here it is. Remember, I was banded 19 days ago. I should be entirely honest and reveal more of my story. When I had just turned 17, I began a struggle with Bulimia. I hid it well from most people and my BMI was underweight ranged. (I'll post a photo on my gallery of those years). I continued that way of life for 13 years until I fell pregnant with my first child. I thought I was cured then. But it didn't last. It just reduced. I know I still have bulimia inside me as over the next 15 years (till today) It raises it's head very regularly. Overeating, purging. But the last 7 years I have been very busy with my 5 children, 3 my own and 2 step, and the purging part of my bulimia was not always easy to achieve. No Privacy!!! And my husband does not know either. So I believe I over eat, like a bulimic, but don't always vomit so have gained 40 kg in those past 15 years. I have tried to vomit on purpose once since I was banded, after over eating, but it would not come up and I was worried I would damage my band. But I was really pissed off that I could not get all that food I had just eaten up. Is banding the answer to my bulimia, or am I just lazy and over eat. Years of over eating during the major bulimia stage has left me with very bad eating habits. Screwed up I know, but I am hoping the band will stop my over eating. If I don't over eat, I don't worry about vomiting. Amazing what you don't know about people, I am a very normal mother, housewife with lots of contact with people and great friends and my kids are all normal parts of society. Yet I have this bizarre secret struggle with food. I don't know why I am telling you all this, probably because I am 45 years old and I need to get a grip and be honest with myself if this is going to work.
  21. Helen

    My Truth

    Thank you Leanne, I understand what you are saying, and your story of what you have been through with just getting out of hospital is very scary. I hope you will be feeling a lot better soon. I must admit I was thinking that if I had heaps of restriction I wouldn't even be able to eat much which would be good. But thanks to you sharing what can go wrong I won't do that. Helen.x
  22. Helen

    My Truth

    Thanks to the 130+ people who took the time to read my story. A special thank you to the 5 out of that 130 who gave me support, encouragement and advice on this thread. I have read and re-read your responses and feel I am going to be ok. I'm not going to post anything negative about my lapband or weight loss journey again. I am going to change my attitude and make it work. Next time I send a post, in however long that will be, it will be to tell you all how great my band is working WITH me. Thanks again everyone. I am not a failure. I can do it. I will remember this. Helen x
  23. Helen

    Forum For Failures

    Thanks again everyone. I have read and re-read your responses and feel I am going to be ok. I'm not going to post anything negative about my lapband or weight loss journey again. I am going to change my attitude and make it work. Next time I send a post, in however long that will be, it will be to tell you all how great my band is working WITH me. Thanks again everyone. I am not a failure. I will remember this. Helen x
  24. Hi, I uploaded the wrong photo on my gallery. How do I delete it? I have tried searching for ages.
  25. Helen

    How do I delete a photo

    Thanks amy, photo deleted. x
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