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Hello everyone, My lap band surgery is booked for January 7 2015 with Professor Paul O'Brien. I am having a friend take me to the hospital and pick me up once I'm all finished. I haven't told anyone about the surgery except my father, who lives overseas, and am reluctant to tell my friend the real reason I am getting surgery... Do you think it will be possible to get in and out of the hospital without my friend finding out I'm having lap band surgery? I know how silly this sounds, that I should just be happy I am finally getting the surgery and not keep secrets. However, having been judged for years about my weight, I don't really want to be judged for having weight loss surgery. What are everyone else's thoughts and experiences? Thank you.
Greetings lovely earthlings, This entry is about lap band and family members. The entry is a little long but I guess what i am really looking for is some advice and clarrification. For those who take the time to read my entry, i thank you in advance and appreciate all comments . Here goes. I am a Lap Band newbie, my sister and i decided to look into the procedure as we are both heavy set. My sister is 27 years old and i, myself am 24. Together we decided to go our local GP and inquire about WLS. Our GP weighed us both and i had come in at 132kgs whilst my sister weighed in 115kgs. Before we left, our GP voiced her opinion and told my sister that if she put in a little more effort into dieting and exersising she would be able to drop the weight with out WLS, she then told me that she recommends it for me, with my hormone imbalance, pcos and being over weight since birth, she thought i would be a great candiate for it. So with that we went home and i got stuck straight into my research. I must have spent the entire evening and early next morning looking at risks and benefits associated with lap band. I also looked at transformation photos, networking groups, diets and exercises associated with the procedure. I even watched a few videos on the surgical procedure and possible arm, breast, tummy and thigh lift procedures that might be needed afterward. The following day i had presented my sister with all the information i had gathered, excited to fill her in however she was not at all interested. When i had asked her what she knew about the LP all she said was 'It makes you lose weight fast and easy', i was instantly annoyed at her response. Here she was saying that she wanted to take the journey together, yet knew so little and refused to aquire more information, specially as seeing by day 3 of contemplating WLS i had made my own information folder. I was disheartened because i was excited about doing this together. We could work out together, diet together and motivate each other. But no. By the end of the week i had called up SIOS and made my first appointment with the Bariatric Coordinator and attended with my mum as moral support. Patricia the BC, commented on how impressive my folder was and was stuned about how much information i had read. At the end of the appointment i was motivated and excited about what i was about to do. The bravest thing i have ever done and i felt great about it, for the first time ever. My sister the next day had called up the same clinic to book in her consultation. However the night before her appointment her partner and his family together with her discussed that she should hold off on the LP because they are looking to buy a house at the end of the year, so with that in mind she called up and cancelled her appointment. She seemed happy about her decision and liked the idea of joining a PHF and waiting the 12months to cut down the cost. Because i am a student studying to be an Aged Care Nurse and have no private health insurance the fees of the LP would be very costly for me, i broke down devasted when i found the estimated fee to be at $13,000. However the next day, my mum and dad pulled me aside and told me that they wanted to help me with the cost of the surgery. I refused, countless amounts of times. I have never taken money from parents, ever! and the idea of it gives me anxiety. Finally i accepted their offer under the conditions that i could pay them back, or at least attempt to. They agreed and everyone was happy.. besides ofcourse my sister. I overhead her telling my mum that i was unworthy of my parents help and that they shouldn't help me with the cost. It's day 3 and she is not talking to me or my parents, at all. I understand that she may feel like one of us is being favorited but it is not the case. Only a few years ago my parents paid $15,000 for a prestigue makeup course and for an engagment party that ended up failing. I find it very hypocritical and hurtful that she doesn't think i deserve to be helped. After all the support i have given her, even in times when it was hard.. i had imagined her returning the favor to me someday. But not today it seems. A few yeasr back i went through something and seeked her support and instead of support she guilted me into a decision i regret still to this day. I love my sister, dearly but I am scared of making the same mistake again. I feel bad as it is and am now talking myself out of the situation because she isn't happy with it. Apart of me wants to ignore her issues with it and go ahead with the procedure but i feel that is selfish. I am concerned with how she will manipulate the issue to make me look bad, as she has done this before. My question is; what do i do? My partner, brother and friends says 'not to let anyone rain on my parade and my health comes comes first' and that there isn't any shame in asking for or recieveing help. Does this make me selfish? Or inconsiderate? I pride myself on being a good person with having a clean and kind heart. Again i thank any of you who could sit through that essay. Have a lovely weekend! <3
Hi, This is my first post! I have found this form to be really helpful in my research about banding. I have just received a DVD and info from CBS in Glen Iris, and I am considering Dr Stewart Skinner for my surgeon. A question I have for you all is about how your family and friends reacted to he news you wanted lap banding? I have noticed some people get a little uncomfortable and dont know what to say. Either they have certain views about it - like its a cop-out, or that exercise and diet should be enough. Or they dont know how to say how happy they are you are finally going to lose the weight. I did lose weight, twice, but both times - in hindsight - were not healthy. First was eating 900 calories a day and I got very skinny. Then I put on 30-40kg. I went on atkins and reductil and lost 30kg in 6-9 months. When I moved to Australia I put it all and some more back on. Since then i have tried CSIRo, weight watchers, atkins again, lite and easy, jenny craig and more. I have yo-yo'd up and down by about 15kg. I have had 3 personal trainers and now have several injuries that prevent me from working out and doing certain exercises. To top it all off - I had a genetic report done a few years back which identified that I have the FTO, MC4R, INSIG2 and PCSK1 genes - all related to obesity. I didn't choose lap banding as a first choice, but the diet pills had awful side effects, I can do limited exercise, I have a sedentary job, and diets are not working. Some of the reactions to my decision have been surprising and I am wondering if peoples attitudes to the procedure change once they see the results in you? Thanks