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Ok so as most know I had the bad out in April due to infection and since then have been waiting for sleeve surgery in sep.

Anyways friends and family have been offering all kinds Of unwanted annoying advice, I.e "you've done so well you don't need the surgery now you can carry on on your own!" or "can't you just exercise more, you don't have that much to loose now"! Pffft 40 kilos still to loose and everyone has an opinion. Arrghh lucky I am not listening to anyone!

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Yeah, it's always easy for others to say things like that when they are not going through it themselves... GL with the upcoming sleeve surgery, hope it goes well for you.

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JaimiM that is so uncalled for. Try not to listen to their negative comments. I have had my lapband for just over a year and am down to 68kgs. If there was ever a problem with my band I would still consider other WLS to maintain the loss as that is one of my biggest problems. Good luck with your sleeve and the rest of your weightloss, you are doing an amazing job! :)

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I had someone tell me last night that I should get the band removed and just have a strict diet. I told this person that if it was that easy I would have been tiny.

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It's difficult for someone who doesn't have the same issues as us to understand - I know my hubby still struggles to understand why I can't just eat less and exercise more (hell I struggle to understand it) - I'm guessing as it's friends and family they are coming from a good place - they just don't want you to risk more surgery as any surgery is a risk, But only you know what the risk of NOT having the surgery is.

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They dont and wont understand.

They say to me as Im waiting for the sleeve isnt that a bit drastic,I say no because I and only I know my eating habits.

Do they think u just wake and and say I will get a sleeve so I can lose weight I dont think anyone would want 3/4 of their stomach out for the fun of it.

People often say to me "oh but your not that big"Im diabetic so it is for health reasons also BUT when u see those bloody big footy players weighing as much as I do u think ohhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Good Luck

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Good Girl ... just flick their comments off your skin and dont let it into your head, leave your headspace where you want it to be to be sucessful in what ever you choose Jaimi... all the power to you girl to getting this thing called weight under your control i say ...hugs.

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Grrrr.

I know they are coming from a place of caring and love, but seriously, when they get their medical degree (s), and specialise in obesity for a few years?

THEN maybe they could table some opinions as to your best medical care!!!

Either on that day, or alternatively, on such a day that you happen to ASK, which I'd be wiling to bet good money has yet to dawn!

At least it's not long 'til September......

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ahh its hard. As supportive as hubby is (to make me happy he says), he still thinks that the Drs say its better to do because its all a business. Business aside when we have to go through what we go through and doing it the normal way doesn't work ... this is like a life line another chance. At least we have that option and its our choice. That is why I am not telling anyone, I don't have the energy to argue with people or make them understand my opinion. I am also embarrassed I got to this size and don't want the attention focussed on me. I almost want to lose weight and not have anyone notice. As good as it is when people notice you lose weight, it just highlights how fat I was (am!). Anyhoo rambling ... know how you feel .. rant away :)

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Its the .... How small do you want to be? That is really making me nuts. I think it's that the idea of me weighing the same as them that makes them say stupid things. Thanks guys ill make like a duck and let it roll off my back like water!

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I've found just pretending their advice is really helpful is the way to go. Everyone has some miraculous diet or suggestion that surely I mustn't have considered or tried before. (Like, hello, I've only been trying to lose weight for the past 10 years!!) So I just go "ohhh, ok, cool!" and pretend it's useful information and then walk off rolling my eyes to myself.

I've learned to do that a lot actually. I do it to my boss all the time. He rules things out or jumps to a conclusion that clearly has no basis, so I just pretend like he's the smartest person in the world and then go off and do it the right way for me.

Soo many people will always have something to say, even if you're the perfect weight. It's quite annoying, but much less so if you just roll it off and then beat the crap out of a punching bag or pound a treadmill to get rid of the frustration!!

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Jami- its YOUR body YOUR future YOUR life no one elses. (most of our family and friends arn't doing a sh- hot job

of themselves so who are they to tell us whats best anyway?)

GOOD LUCK- youl show them youve made not only the right choice but the best one FOR YOU! :)

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We're all human, I think we all make mistakes about not understanding what its like in someone else's shoes.

But yes, annoying.

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Good on you for ignoring them, and good on you for wanting to continue your weight loss journey. If my band got taken out I would want a sleeve done too. This is my way of life now and I couldn't do it without the help of surgery. Best of luck luck with your surgery, hon :D

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This morning at work I was so fed up with hearing "youve lost a lot of weight, but cheated", or "it only coz you had surgery that your losing weight, its not really counted" that I snapped. On the third uncalled for comment I returned fire with .." yeah, well Im fat and youre rude, but at least Im doing something about my problem!!" Only to be applauded by my collegues, some that I dont even know that well. Apparently this (overweight) staff member has been bitchy every time someone comments on anybodys weightloss or self improvement. Unfortunately it didnt make me feel all that great about myself, but at least it shut her up for a bit.

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This morning at work I was so fed up with hearing "youve lost a lot of weight, but cheated", or "it only coz you had surgery that your losing weight, its not really counted" that I snapped. On the third uncalled for comment I returned fire with .." yeah, well Im fat and youre rude, but at least Im doing something about my problem!!" Only to be applauded by my collegues, some that I dont even know that well. Apparently this (overweight) staff member has been bitchy every time someone comments on anybodys weightloss or self improvement. Unfortunately it didnt make me feel all that great about myself, but at least it shut her up for a bit.

Fantastic comeback Louise! I'm so pleased you said something, I think she needed to be told! And the act that you mentioned her rudeness, bravo. Hopefully she will think twice before putting the next person down that tries to improve themselves (and hopefully you'll feel ready to put more colleagues in their place). Great job xx

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I've found just pretending their advice is really helpful is the way to go. Everyone has some miraculous diet or suggestion that surely I mustn't have considered or tried before. (Like, hello, I've only been trying to lose weight for the past 10 years!!) So I just go "ohhh, ok, cool!" and pretend it's useful information and then walk off rolling my eyes to myself.

I've learned to do that a lot actually. I do it to my boss all the time. He rules things out or jumps to a conclusion that clearly has no basis, so I just pretend like he's the smartest person in the world and then go off and do it the right way for me.

Soo many people will always have something to say, even if you're the perfect weight. It's quite annoying, but much less so if you just roll it off and then beat the crap out of a punching bag or pound a treadmill to get rid of the frustration!!

You know what, Beth? I had an epiphany reading this. I've battled for years with my mother in law over loads of issues, and been made to feel that nothing I did/cooked/said was good enough, but actually, this approach is a fantastic one. I'm totally going to try this next time they're staying in my home. Thanks LOADS xx

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Ok so as most know I had the bad out in April due to infection and since then have been waiting for sleeve surgery in sep.

Anyways friends and family have been offering all kinds Of unwanted annoying advice, I.e "you've done so well you don't need the surgery now you can carry on on your own!" or "can't you just exercise more, you don't have that much to loose now"! Pffft 40 kilos still to loose and everyone has an opinion. Arrghh lucky I am not listening to anyone!

Jaimi,

Be proud of yourself, their opinions don't matter. You've come such a long way, you should be thrilled to bits with your progress. You're a Dolan girl too, aren't you? Are you off to Glengarry too?

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Yup a Dolan girl but having it done at Hollywood hospital :).

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You know what, Beth? I had an epiphany reading this. I've battled for years with my mother in law over loads of issues, and been made to feel that nothing I did/cooked/said was good enough, but actually, this approach is a fantastic one. I'm totally going to try this next time they're staying in my home. Thanks LOADS xx

I'm so glad to hear!! Honestly, my psychologist has had such a massive impact on how I cope with this stuff. Even helped me turn it into a game in my mind, like see how long it takes before so-and-so criticizes what I'm eating, or see how many times know-it-all-at-work can criticize my project before approving it etc. It completely takes back the power and helps with that infuriating feeling of frustration and not being able to say or do anything about it.

Good luck!! It takes a while to get into the habit but once you do it feels so much better and makes life a lot easier for you!

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People who have never been overweight just cannot imagine how hard it is to have almost everything you eat stick to you somewhere.

There are those who burn it fast off just by being alive, those who burn it off fast when they are active or are stressed and good luck to them.

But some of us just are on a slow burn regardless. That is not our fault. Eating too much is, eating the wrong food is, eating for emotional reasons is not OK but if we are wired for survival by storing everything then we need assistance to correct that.

Regardless of causation, the important thing is that we are taking responsibility for ourselves. That's empowering and I suspect that there are those who just don't feel comfortable about that.

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over eating isn't the only reason some of us put on excessive amounts of weight.  I for one, have a problem with depression which causes me to lose motivation.  My biggest problem is not excising when I'm depressed.  No motivation leads to a sedentary lifestyle which just lends itself to weight gain. I've started to hide myself away. Now I'm too embarrassed to go walking, exercise or anything remotely physical.  I hate that I huff and puff. 

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According to my Mum, I now look 'yellow and haggard'. My bloods are perfect. I should never have told her about the sleeve.

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Some people are just RUDE you have done well  i told someone a few weeks ago  to  live my life they  told me it was just willpower and  i had none.. so if i didn't have any how come  I've  lost the weight  I've lost  i walked away and  didn't say anything else later on they came back and  apologized some  people  u just cant help chin up chickie ur doing well

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