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How to convince your doctor to help you get lap banding?

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Hi everyone, 

 

I have my appointment with my doctor on Monday to discuss my weightless options. I am 19 and have PCOS and am 120kg (170cm). He seems pro-nasal sprays and less invasive techniques but I've done my research, and with my illness (which results in a lifetime of chronic obesity) I am really keen to get this surgery. 

 

So can anyone help me on what to say to my doctor and share your past experiences visiting your GP for the first time to enquire about the surgery? I'm just worried the doctor won't take my decision to seriously and shrug it off. 

 

Thanks & love, 

 

Jo

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Its not your GPs decision whether or not you have surgery. It is up to the specialist, all your GP need to do is give you a referral, if he wont as Julie says see another doctor

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get in contact with one of the wieght loss clinics offering banding, they sometimes have a GP that you can see to get your referal from. I didn't have to see my own GP, I just rang the clinic and started from there. The first my GP knew about it was a couple of months after surgery when I got tonsilitis and had to go get a script.

Good Luck

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I must have been really lucky as my Doc was supportive from get go and is really happy for when I have an achievement.

 

1) weight loss

2) no need for diabetes tablets after 7 month (DEC 2011)

3) blood pressure getting better and have been able to reduce them last Christmas (2013)

4) blood tests showing better and better results 

 

I will definitely stick with him.

 

If yours is not supporting your surgery change and find someone who does as I think you will need him/her later for support.

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I agree that consulting another doctor is the solution. It's your life, your comfort/discomfort and your journey and you are a paying customer with rights.

 

For too long the medical profession has enjoyed an unwarranted alternative god like status and they don't always get it right.

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Tell him you're happy to try it his way, but you want the referral as well. That way you may actually lose a bit of weight while you're waiting for the surgery appointment and wont have to do the two weeks on optifast - god thats awful stuff!.

Good luck.

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I agree with, if your Doctor won't give you the referral go see another one, I did, my long time Doctor wouldn't agree that this was the best solution to my weight loss so I went to another Doctor got the referral had the surgery and I have never looked back.  Go for it.

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I'm the same height and my starting weight was 119kg my GP was really excited for me. Like the others have said the GP has an obligation to refer you to a specialist if you ask as you fit the general specs for being obese. Good luck it's the best step I've ever taken, I'm almost 20kg down and feeling great already.

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My GP and I tried all possible solutions for my morbid obesity. He said that it was my decision and that he fully supports my journey. Find a Dr willing to work with you. Work together on a care plan to take back your life.

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My GP actually suggested it to me, I was in denial how big I had become.  I agree with other posters - find another Dr who will give you a referral.  You and your surgeon are the only ones who can decide. 

 

Best thing I ever did. 

 

Good luck with everything :-) 

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I have two GP's - one for my physical needs (i.e. I'm sick and need help to get better or need a med cert to provide to work as evidence for time away); and one for my emotional needs (support on this weight loss journey, support when my mother was dying and I was her only carer and needed a referral for a psychologist to help get me out of the slide into depression that I was losing). 

I have things set up in this way because GP number 1 isn't married and doesn't have children, so she has little understanding of what it's like being a working Mum. She thinks losing weight should be as easy as rationing out my chocolate and just saying I'm going to go x number of days without eating any.

GP number 2 is the exact opposite. She totally understands where I'm coming from, even though she's skinny. She has listened to her patients and asked lots of questions, and taken on board their feelings. She is great with emotional issues in my marriage as well.

When I booked my appt to ask for my referral, I accidentally booked with GP number 1 but she still gave me the referral as I went in clear in my mind about what I wanted. 

When I then say GP number 2, she saw the referral on my file and was so excited for me!

I strongly recommend doctor shopping until you find one (or even two!!) that meet your needs - you are the person paying for the appt after all.

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My GP was a dick!! Initially he refused to do the ref. (I might add I was 165kgs at the time). I stood up for myself & reminded him that I was paying the consultation fee & that in fact it would be the lap band surgeon who decided if it was an appropriate path for me!!

Be brave!!

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My GP was a dick!! Initially he refused to do the ref. (I might add I was 165kgs at the time). I stood up for myself & reminded him that I was paying the consultation fee & that in fact it would be the lap band surgeon who decided if it was an appropriate path for me!!

Be brave!!

 

GOOD ON YOU!

 

It is NOT a GP's decision! More people need to stand up for themselves! :)

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When I first asked for a referral the doctor said "no no no" shook her head and refused to even talk about it. I was practically pleading with her about my BMI, medical issues and family history and she still refused to listen or wright the referral!

 

I left that appointment (they bulk billed thank goodness!) and straight away made an appointment for a different Dr. in a different building. I hadn't seen him before but he talked to me like a human being, listened and actually seemed to care about preventing diabetes. (I have 4 grandparents and a cousin with diabetes, plus have insulin resistance / PCOS). He wrote the referral on the spot!

 

It really pays to get a second opinion, and if one Dr says no, go to another one!

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I had a doctor that wanted me to do all the rest first - Duromine, etc.  Which I did... but he always had "something else" he wanted me to try first before he'd write me out that referral, so it never happened.  I changed doctors when I moved across town and went through a list of all the "trieds" I'd done with the new doctor and asked her for a referral.  Got it immediately and she was so excited for me.  Now she's jealous of me and asks me about it - obviously thinking about it for herself - because I'm smaller than her now and she struggles too.  I don't know why that first referral was so hard to get, but if you don't get it, keep going to drs until you get the referral.  It's worth it for your health in the long-run and I wonder whether there are some misconceptions about WLS in the GP community.

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I was fortunate, i had never considered it until the doctor offered a referral, initiially i declined , but when i spoke to family and friends, and found an amazing support network, i decided to see the surgeon, and was put on opti diet.

I'm a very private person also, but I started a page on facebook to share with facebook friends, i have found unlimited support on there, so if anyone wants to start a FB page or join  mine send me a private msg.

in the meantime joanebandit hang in there.

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I cant believe how many drs said no to people. I went to my dr, told him the name of the surgeon i wanted a referral for and he had no issues. He said the surgery had advanced in that area over the years and he would be interested in how it went. He has been my gp since i was 5yo though so he knew the ups and downs of my health over the yeara

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I'd done a lot of research prior to seeing my GP, so when I walked in, I said point blank "I want to referral to see Kevin Dolan". GP was a bit stunned but then asked those few obligatory questions and printed out the referral.

As all the other posters have said, find a new GP. It's not their decision. Stay strong and don't let the silly GP throw you off your journey x

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