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My daughter is to be lapbanded on 14 May by Professor O'Brien from CBS.  She is only 15 but is classed as morbidly obese.  Is there anyone else here with a similar situation and if so how did the patient go?

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May 14th is my 1 year bandiversary, I am also a Prof. O'Brien pt. And a very happy one at that.... I can't help you with the advice for your daughter but I can tell you CBS have a very supportive and knowledgeable team, and I think you will be happy with your choice to take your daughter there.

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Why a lap band and not a sleeve or bypass? It just seems strange that they are offering/doing the least affective and most problematic WLS solution.

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Why a lap band and not a sleeve or bypass? It just seems strange that they are offering/doing the least affective and most problematic WLS solution.

Professor O'Brien  is supposed to be the best so her daughter should be fine, contrary to what people think there are many complications to sleeve and bypass as well as band, you dont want to visit the complications forums on facebook, many more coming out of sleeve  than I expected, they all can have complications from what Ive read and thats not to say you will get any at all, its not a forgone conclusion.  If you have a really good surgeon thats bound to be a great start regardless of what surgery one has

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Why a lap band and not a sleeve or bypass? It just seems strange that they are offering/doing the least affective and most problematic WLS solution.

I'm guessing they don't want to do anything permanent at her age. 

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Is your daughter the one that's motivated, or was she pushed in this direction?  I do know of one young girl (17yo) who had a band and really wasn't ready.  She hated the restrictions and didn't want 'proper' food.  She used to blend Mars bars and other stuff that might get stuck with milk to get her sugar fix!  Sadly she lost no weight and put some on.  There is always a way round the band if you aren't ready to make a long term commitment.  Having said that if it's truly something your daughter wants and is mature enough to make this decision then the chosen Doctor is probably OK.

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I'm very concerned  about the procedure but once we had our first appointment with Prof O'Brien my nervousness about the surgery abated somewhat.  It's my daughter who  wants to be banded and as her parents we are supporting her.  We go back tomorrow to see Prof as he wanted her to really think it over and read more literature before the operation and then see him again to make sure she really understands what it entails.

As for the question regarding sleeve/bypass, the Prof is not inclined to do those procedures on such a young adolescent and I am very inclined as a parent to agree. If it was not Professor O'Brien doing the surgery I wouldn't worked so hard for the referral that Daisy has begged me to do for the last 3 years.

After years of gym memberships, personal trainers, pediatricians, dietitians and nutritionists Daisy finally has some hope.  If this will give her the self esteem to no longer be home schooled and leave the house and socialise with friends I will give her all the support I can for her to be successful. Her Anxiety Disorder is so bad that her dad and I are her constant companions but after this operation I hope all her dreams will come true, to go back to her old school and not be too embarrassed to see her friends.

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I wish Daisy all the best, I think it's great that we can offer WLS to young people. They then have the chance to go on and lead a normal life. Good on her and good on you as parents to be so supportive.

best wishes and please keep us posted as to her progress.

xxx

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poor baby, I hope it works for her, how terrible to be so  embarrassed etc, I felt that way at her age, its a living hell. I wish her all the best, please keep us informed as to her progress. From all Ive read, prof O'Brien seems to be a lovely caring guy

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I also wish her all the best for a successful outcome.  Kids are so cruel and I hope in a year she can stand up to all those bullies who tormented her.

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@Stacey72, if you would like someone to support your lovely daughter and be a kind of  'band buddies' to her I would love to offer her my help.

I have struggled with my weight all my life, I am 31 and almost a year out from banding I am finally happy and confident in my own skin, I am not skinny, and I never will be, but I feel great and would love nothing more then to help another girl find her happy self.

If you would like to take me up on the offer, let me know, I can give you my email and phone number and answer any questions or provide some support from both a fellow bandit and a professional (nurseing) point of view.

Goodluck Daisy girl

Leya xox

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I can only let you know that having recently been banded In Feb, I only wish I'd done it long ago.   Recovery after surgery was not too bad; a few days of discomfort and feeling tired from the anesthetic.  On the whole I have found the whole process to be easy and seamless and the weight is coming off in a steady and healthy way.  I am motivated to train and am walking lots.  I'm not near my goal weight yet, but I feel so much fitter and healthier already.  I've found this forum to be great when I needed support and advice.  I think you supporting your daughter to change her life for the better is wonderful and wish you and her all the very best.  

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Well second visit to Prof O'Brien was yesterday and Daisys surgery has been brought forward to 30 April, 3 weeks from this Saturday!

Thank you to everyone for your kind words x.

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Wishing Daisy all the best - hopefully this will be the tool she needs to help her achieve her goal!  :wub:

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I hope and pray that it all goes well for your daughter and she gets the results that she is looking for and without the complications.

If it goes pear-shaped at any point, feel free to PM me to talk about removal and possible revision to other surgery - I'm always sympathetic and willing to lend an ear.

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Hi Stacey,

Wishing your daughter all the best, I really hope this helps. I am guessing since you used the phrase "Anxiety Disorder" she is under the care of a psychologist? Hope all of this can help.

 

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Well it's only 6 days now until Daisy is to be banded and we are all very excited although a little anxious as well.

She is busy looking at clothes for 'after' something she has never wanted to do before!

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So close now, good luck Daisy!

Leya x

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Hi Stacey72, I was banded by another doctor at CBS, and I can let you know that the after care service provided by all the staff and doctors at CBS has been second to none.  They are supportive, encouraging and also very efficient. I highly recommend them. 

I also just wanted to say that you are a brilliant mother and I applaud the efforts you are going to for your daughter.  I had a weight issue my entire life and I only wish that this was available to me at 15 rather than 55!

The best of luck to you all, 

gpd

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I was banded at the age of 17 (13 years ago) and failed miserably which I attribute to the fact that I was immature and didn't take it seriously enough. As you said, it's not permanent so there is no down side to trying I guess. I will say that it is critical that the rest of the family make it easy for her to find and eat appropriate foods because my family, whilst supportive of the surgery didn't help much when it came to buying the right foods at home.

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I would think a lap band a good choice for an adolescent - they need more calories and more nutrition than an adult and they burn way more calories just sitting around face booking too.  A band, being adjustable, only needs to be tight enough for her to lose weight and with her doctor, she can balance weight loss/restriction with her medical needs.

A sleeve for a teenager may leave her dangerously short of nutrients and calories.

Good luck to your daughter and hopefully, although she's had a few hard years already, her twenties will be AWESOME!

CBS is a good choice too - they are so supportive and professional and I have had a very long and very good association with them.

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Well Daisy was banded on Saturday and is doing quite well, mostly just having water and a little fruit juice.  Although had a little tomato soup for lunch today and felt uncomfortable after just 50 ml.  But overall doing well.

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I was banded at the age of 17 (13 years ago) and failed miserably which I attribute to the fact that I was immature and didn't take it seriously enough. As you said, it's not permanent so there is no down side to trying I guess. I will say that it is critical that the rest of the family make it easy for her to find and eat appropriate foods because my family, whilst supportive of the surgery didn't help much when it came to buying the right foods at home.

It's been 6 days since Daisy was banded and she has lost 5 kilos.... and i've lost 2.5 :) we have absolutely no bad food in the house so that there is no temptation.  She is determined but I agree that we have to be extremely supportive not eat anything that would cause her to take a step back.

 

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