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my wife had the procedure about 2 years ago and as we live in the NT we don't have any support, i find it hard to deal with because she is sick all the time ,not lost any weight . I find it hard to support her , because she tries to hide that she has thrown up and all i want to do is help her i sometimes wish she had not done this,is there anybody that has gone through this because i am at a lose how to help TODD

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Hi Todd and good on you for doing what you can to help your wife. I can understand why you'd be worried.

There is a chance that your wife has too much fluid in her band or that she is eating to quickly. These are two common reasons for people having difficulty while eating but there are others.

Not losing any weight is also symptomatic of the band being to tight because you get down anything you can in order to still eat and some of those things are very high calorie things like milkshakes etc.

Whether that is the problem or not, she really does need to see a doctor about this. If she does have too much fluid they can remove some. If her band has slipped (which can also be an issue based on your description) they will figure it out.

Bottom line is there are a number of different things that can be causing your wife the problems that she is having and she needs to see a professional. She may be scared that she is failing because she hasn't lost any weight and that's why she doesn't want to see someone. She might also be scared that they will want to remove her band and she has pinned her hopes on it working for her.

Be gentle with her. Urge her to see a specialist and tell her that it could very well be something simple and easily fixed that if it is seen to could see her getting the results that she always dreamed of.

No good will come from suffering in silence and hoping it will go away.

I hope this helps and please let us know how you guys go.

Cheers,

Lisa.

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Hi Todd and good on you for doing what you can to help your wife. I can understand why you'd be worried.

There is a chance that your wife has too much fluid in her band or that she is eating to quickly. These are two common reasons for people having difficulty while eating but there are others.

Not losing any weight is also symptomatic of the band being to tight because you get down anything you can in order to still eat and some of those things are very high calorie things like milkshakes etc.

Whether that is the problem or not, she really does need to see a doctor about this. If she does have too much fluid they can remove some. If her band has slipped (which can also be an issue based on your description) they will figure it out.

Bottom line is there are a number of different things that can be causing your wife the problems that she is having and she needs to see a professional. She may be scared that she is failing because she hasn't lost any weight and that's why she doesn't want to see someone. She might also be scared that they will want to remove her band and she has pinned her hopes on it working for her.

Be gentle with her. Urge her to see a specialist and tell her that it could very well be something simple and easily fixed that if it is seen to could see her getting the results that she always dreamed of.

No good will come from suffering in silence and hoping it will go away.

I hope this helps and please let us know how you guys go.

Cheers,

Lisa.

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my wife had the procedure about 2 years ago and as we live in the NT we don't have any support, i find it hard to deal with because she is sick all the time ,not lost any weight . I find it hard to support her , because she tries to hide that she has thrown up and all i want to do is help her i sometimes wish she had not done this,is there anybody that has gone through this because i am at a lose how to help TODD

thanks lisa for your reply i hope my wife will use this site to move forward,it can be very hard to be a partner or friend to deal with this,as we don't really understand whats going on but i will say one thing good on you for doing this as it takes a lot of strength to make a change in your life you go girl good luck

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Hi Todd

And welcome to the site. Please do your best to get your wife onto this forum! There are so many experienced bandits here they will soon get her on track to sorting things out.

Good Luck!

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Maybe you can tell your wife you have been looking online about banding and have discovered this site (which some other partners of banded people use as well as banded people) and that you have read that this can happen - too tight band or not good eating habits. SHe should be seeing the doc for followups anyway + they should have given out post-banding literature to take home. She probably is feeling bad - that it didnt work or the waste of money or the horrible vomits - it must be horrible and she may also be embarrassed. I personally am vomiting too often and can hardly keep anything down. this is since my last adjustment a few weeks before CHristmas, I am going on tues to ask them to take some out -if it went on much longer I would be in strife. Good on you for trying to help and support her.

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Hi everyone thank you for helping me, My name is Joanne and I am Todds wife who has had the banding done I live in the NT and I have not had much support with my banding. At the moment I am not keeping anything down and it is very depressing. Todd is continually on my back about throwing up all the time. I don't know what to do so I will now be making appointment with the doctor to see what I can do. Any other suggestions on what food I can eat would be good because that has been hard swell as I do not eat red meat and I can not eat fish and chicken as I throw it up. I am also having trouble with fruit I can not eat any of it and also with some veg.

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just wanting to know how I can put both of us in under the 1 email address as it will not let me do it

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Hello Joanne and Todd and welcome to this site :rolleyes:

I cant help you with the site question, but there is a forum for getting help with site issues, so maybe if you ask there about the email address, some smart technical type person (I.E. The amazing Dr. Dave) may be able to answer it for you.

Firstly, are you taking multi-vitamins in order to get enough nutrition? Also, what is your doc like, do they have a dietitian they work with? Maybe until things get back to normal with you and your band, you may need to go on puree's (if its going to take a while to get back into your doc) as you really need to ensure that you are getting adequate nutrition.

Do you eat casseroles (with chicken)?? that may be a way to try and get some protein in, if you are throwing normal foods up??

Have a read around this site.... it is honestly the best site ever invented, and has helped so many of us on this journey :rolleyes:

So have a read around, ask as many questions as you need to, and dont give up...

Cheers Kristy

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Can anyone tell me if I feel like I can feel my portal and when I sit I can feel it under my ribs is that normal. Also i that side feels uncomfortable when I am sitting is that normal

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Can anyone tell me if I feel like I can feel my portal and when I sit I can feel it under my ribs is that normal. Also i that side feels uncomfortable when I am sitting is that normal

Hi Joanne

That is very normal with the port and it does get more visible when you loose more weight how long have you had the band? just reading your posts and sounds like your not having any luck? if you havent had your band for long you might need to get a bit a fluid to take out cause it sounds a bit tight to me. if you cant keep anything down you may need to go back to the mushie stage but there could be lots of reasons why? who did your band? did they give you any info has what to expect???

Good Luck Stay Happy Marie :P

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Hi Joanne and good on you for jumping on here.

My port can still be really uncomfortable for me but there is now real days or reasons for it. Just one of those things. In fact, I freaked out recently because I've discovered (now that I've lost weight) that I can actually feel my band through my skin as well. Really freaky.

Where about in the NT are you? I grew up in Alice Springs and my Mum is still there. More recently my sister has moved to Darwin and we do have a couple of Territory bandits around the place. I know it can be tough to get good care up there and you can sometimes feel very isolated.

Please do what you can to see a doctor soon. If all of your problems are caused by having too much fluid in your band (which from the sounds of things is the most likely suspect at this stage) then it will take a matter of minutes to have .5ml of fluid removed and before you know it your whole world will change.

As for food:

- As far as red meat goes I can eat lamb and kangaroo without difficulty. I can also eat gravy beef cooked for about 2 hours in curry/casserole and fillet steak cooked no more than medium rare. No dry roast meat.

- Chicken, I can pretty much only eat the darker meat of chicken these days. So even if I was going to have roast chicken it would be thigh or drumstick territory (provided the drum isn't too dry. If it's dry it gets stuck) chicken breast just doesn't work for me at all anymore.

- The only kind of fish I've really had trouble with is battered fish.

- Fast food is pretty much a no fly zone for me anymore. Hungry Jacks and Maccas have nothing I can eat except the ice-cream and sometimes chicken nuggets. I can eat the popcorn chicken and mashed potato and gravy from KFC and that's about it. I can eat noodles from my local noodle bar. Pizza, I have to work really hard to get one slice down. Fish and chip shop I pretty much just eat a crab stick and a potato cake if the family are having fish and chips.

- Fruit and veg isn't too bad. I can't eat oranges, mandarines, grapefruit or lettuce. Roast potatoes can be a bit of a cow and I need to watch out for celery. Anything that is stringy like celery or beans etc need to be cut small so that you make sure the strings are short because they don't get chewed up.

- Breads and cereals is a big area that I can't eat from. The ONLY kind of rice I can eat is basmati. I go ok with pasta but it has to be well cooked. Can't eat muffins but can sometimes eat crumpets. Can sometimes eat toast and on really lucky days fresh bread but I still have to be careful. Yesterday for example, I decided I was going to be naughty and make a chicken nugget and ranch dressing sandwich. I didn't even get halfway through, even though I was eating slowly, before the mayonnaise and fresh bread all stuck together and stopped me eating anymore of it.

I think the only other thing I can really think of at this stage is that alcohol tightens my band. I generally don't drink very much but on some rare social occasions I drink far too much. When this happens I have to be very careful with what I eat for the next couple of days because my band shrinks right up and I pretty much have to do a couple of days of mushies.

I don't know if any of this is helpful to you at all but I thought I'd try to answer some of your questions.

One of the main things I wanted to say to you Joanne is that what is going on is because of the hardware and not you. See a doctor and I'm sure things will all get better very quickly.

Keep us in the loop.

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Excellent news. Hopefully you'll get it all sorted out then :-)

Keep us posted.

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I'm so glad you're seeing the doctor. All that vomiting isn't right. I hope that it's just a case of the band being too full.

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Thats great news that you are going to your doc on thurs... keep us posted!!!

Hopefully they will fix it all up then you can get back on track with the eating and you can start losing weight again :D

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I had .3 of 1 mil removed this morning and boy do I feel better - still restricion but not ridiculously tight - even this small bit has been wonderful. I am really thinking about you on Thurs and will check on Fri to see if you've posted after seeing the doc - hoping it is the surgeon not just the GP as GP may not be able to remove any but can refer you on.

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I'm with you Stripey, waiting with baited breath and crossing my fingers. I have been so lucky and had such a good run with my band I want everyone else to experience success because I know how important it is.

I'm glad you're feeling better after having some fill removed.

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Hi guys,

Where about in the NT are you? I am in Alice and have a lot of support from my surgeon and team. If you need any help please let me know. I am only new to this but would highly recommend my team to anyone.

Hope all goes well with the doc appointment on Thursday.

:)

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Hi Joanne and Todd and welcome to this great site. I'm an ex Territorian from way back. Lived in Karama for many years.

Anyway that aside, it could be, like most say, that the band it a little tight. I just had .25ml out and boy do I feel better now. I couldn't get food down very well, always PBing.

I don't know where I read it, probably in these forums somewhere, but someone had gone on for 2 years PBing all the time and not enjoying food and putting on weight because of the wrong eating habits, and finally they went to the doctors and had some fill taken out and it was the best thing they'd done. Everything just seemed to work probably from then on.

Who know this might be what the problem is. Anyway its now Thursday so you've probably been to the doctors by now. Let us know how you got on. All the best.

Min

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Hi Joanne,

Just wanted to let you know that we're thinking of you and I hope all went well on Thursday.

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Hi Everyone

Well i went to the doctors and he filled my band up with other ml now I can not eat anything at all. Trying to get back into see him now. Went to the Hospital today as he said he would be there but when I got there he was not now have to deal with it until I can get in this week

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If it's really bad you can maybe call his office and there may be an afterhours number on a recorded message perhaps- my surgeon gave me that and said to call if ever "you can't keep anything down at all - even your own saliva is makign you vomit OR if you ARE eating tiny tiny portions and find yourself vomiting and this goes on for more than once a day over more than 2 days" or something like that. I keep his details handy -just in case any of these quite dire things happen.

When you say you can't eat anything - do you mean you literally can not eat anything or even drink anything at all because you throw up - if it's that bad you may need to go to the hospital as that has (rarely) happened I have heard/read and means it is way way too tight.

If it's just that eating ALMOST anything is very hard that could be just a matter of getting used to it and eating less, smaller and slower and without liquid at the same time. SOme bandits on this site have told about the tiny tiny portions they eat (eg "Princess" and others). Personally I found my last fill (to 7ml) was too much but it was bearable (just). I knew I needed some out but as it was before Christmas I decided to wait til new year to get some out as I felt I could cope for a few weeks and it may be handy around Christmas!. i was able to only eat and drink the very tiniest amount - a few sips of any liquid and then wait about an hour and have abou two bites of something - eaten very very slowly, putting knife and fork down and resting between mouthfuls and only eating once a day (but having plenty of water - in small sips throughout the day and multi-vitamins). I was RAPT at never ever being hungry and not even wanting food and at the rapid weight loss during those weeks but knew I couldnt stand it that tight for long! Just had .3 of a mil out last week and I am loving it at 6.7mls. I am now eating 2 meals a day (lunch and dinner) very very small amounts (on a special banded plate) like 2 teaspoons of scrambled egg for lunch and 1/4 of a chop with a slice of tomato for tea is a typical day + coffee, water and vitamins. I tell you this because I found it hard to know how much a normal banded person SHOULD be eating. There is a spot on this forum about "what bandits eat" and i was glad to see this tiny amount is actually enough as I was scared I might be having too little.

Just thought I would add this info just in case it's helpful about what is fairly normal and what's not after a fill.

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Hi Todd and good on you for doing what you can to help your wife. I can understand why you'd be worried.

There is a chance that your wife has too much fluid in her band or that she is eating to quickly. These are two common reasons for people having difficulty while eating but there are others.

Not losing any weight is also symptomatic of the band being to tight because you get down anything you can in order to still eat and some of those things are very high calorie things like milkshakes etc.

Whether that is the problem or not, she really does need to see a doctor about this. If she does have too much fluid they can remove some. If her band has slipped (which can also be an issue based on your description) they will figure it out.

Bottom line is there are a number of different things that can be causing your wife the problems that she is having and she needs to see a professional. She may be scared that she is failing because she hasn't lost any weight and that's why she doesn't want to see someone. She might also be scared that they will want to remove her band and she has pinned her hopes on it working for her.

Be gentle with her. Urge her to see a specialist and tell her that it could very well be something simple and easily fixed that if it is seen to could see her getting the results that she always dreamed of.

No good will come from suffering in silence and hoping it will go away.

I hope this helps and please let us know how you guys go.

Cheers,

Lisa.

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